Wedding Update 2: Decoration Ideas, Food, and Cake!

So I've decided that my colors will be Black and Maroon (/Orchid/Plum-ish...around those shades) with hints of orange. This way some of my favorite colors will be included as well as matching with the Fall theme.

Because of this, I hope to be able to buy (or make) a maroon veil with black flowers and black trim. This way it will match my black/maroon bouquet (may add a few small orange flowers or leaves in there too.) I'm still trying to decide how to bring in some of my colors to my actual dress though. I'm hoping that the jewel on the front of the dress I like so much is just very simply sewed on, so that I may be able to take it off, add a maroon ribbon around my waist that will trail down my side or back and then re-sew the jewel on top of the ribbon. (I also plan on color coordinating my finger and toe nails. Hehheh.)

For the reception decor, since I want to have the actual wedding outside -preferably on the top of Pine Mt. around one of the lookouts (or the gazebo) on Little Shepherd's Trail (so very little -to no- decoration will have to be used for that) I've decided to try and find tall, clear vases and fill them with fall leaf garlands (conveniently and cheaply found at the Dollar Tree!) and fairy lights that will spiral around the inside of the vases (fairy lights are small, battery powered lcd's on a tiny string). These will be the centerpieces. (ALSO! Does anyone have any of those tall vases? They're hella expensive online!) After that, cover the tables in matching runners of some sort and tie tulle bows to the chairs. Of course, there will still be a bit more decorations, but so far I think I have the main parts hammered out in my head. (Also, this will be for the reception dinner...after that...I'm gonna change things up a bit and bring in some more "spooky" decorations for the party!)

Centerpiece examples:

Think similar to this, with the lights below swirling upward in the vase.

Fairy lights - These come in several other colors as well.
Also, the site I found these on, has TONS of decorating stuff! Reasonable prices too!
You can check out their other stuff here: Save-On-Crafts

And, of course, every Ace (asexual) needs their cake! (Sorry, for the in-joke...it's an asexual/AVEN thing...I believe it started with something about "Cake is better than sex!" and probably the show, Ace of Cakes that was on the Food Network before ('Ace' being short for 'Asexual.) 

Annnnyyyyway..... (sorry for the bad joke...)

I thought long and hard about what sort of cake I wanted...one that represented me, one that fit the theme, etc. After much deliberation, I've decided that since I LOVE Halloween and Fall, that a cake fitting the theme, also fits me! I've found TONS of REALLY nice Halloween cakes! The decision was hard! Some were more gruesome, some more spooky, some childish, some cartoon-y, some very Tim Burton-y (those ones are awesome btw!), some shaped like skulls and other body parts, some more elegant. For now though...I think I've fallen most in love with this one:

This cake has slight elegance (sort of...lol) is not too creepy or gore-y, looks pretty (not too childishly cute, not too grown up), and it finds a nice medium in-between straight Halloween cake and straight Fall cake. (And as Goth as I am, and as cool as they are...it's not a stereotypical "goth" cake that's all red and black and nothing else. Don't get me wrong though, some of those are nice...but they just don't...feel right for this to me for some reason. This cake, however reminds me of that crisp air, dark nights, Fall/Halloween vibe that I love soooo much!)

As far as someone to make the cake, I have two people I know of that might could pull it off. One is an actual bakery and one is my old middle school algebra teacher who can rock an awesome cake! Hopefully, someone can pull this beauty off nicely! (Also, if you're curious about flavorings...I'm thinking a nice chocolate/red velvet mix...sound yummy enough?)

As far as the other food goes...I'm sort of leaning towards something easy and well-priced to get. Like, say Joe Pack's chicken? (By the way, if you've never had Joe Pack's chicken...you are missing out on a great local (Letcher County, KY) food source! And then perhaps have some hearty sides like macaroni and cheese, mashed potatoes and gravy, potato salad, etc. You know, those good, 'warm your insides' types of foods? I want my guests to both enjoy their food and also get enough of it so that they don't have to nibble on something else when they get home! Also, I figured, due to the theme and the party afterwards, that some "creepy" snacks and appetizers (some sweet, some savory) should be brought in as well. I may just have those catered though since I likely will have all sorts of issues and screw-ups trying to make creepy food dishes! Also, since I don't care for alcohol and weddings to be mixed (and because the reception will likely be at Whitesburg Library's meeting rooms and I don't know how they would feel about drunken people on their property) I've decided that instead of a cocktail bar...(and since it would be near Halloween)...how about a candy bar? I'll have a table full of yummy treats and some cute little bags and guests can create their own yummy Halloween treat bags! It also doubles as a sort of favor for my guests (the other favor I'm thinking should be bubble or glow stick related...there will be raving at the party after all!)

And on a VERY important note:

The date! Oh my goodness! The DATE! What an annoying situation that is! 

After much deliberation (and some heavy sighing since I would love to have a Halloween-versay - well, I guess each year I could celebrate it each year on Halloween anyway though. lol.) I've decided that my wedding will take place either Saturday, October 27th or Sunday, October 28th. This way, more people should be able to come and it wouldn't interfere (as much) with people's schedules (be they work, school, or Trick or Treating). It seems however, that my "honeymoon" afterwards will have me missing a day of class though, maybe - depending on the say I have the wedding, since Red River makes you book at least two nights, and c'mon...I want at LEAST that much of a vacation! But, I'll just have to work that out with my Drawing teacher somehow. Also, this would put me being back home in time to enjoy Halloween day with my friends! (I'm also thinking, that since I wouldn't leave for Red River Gorge until the day AFTER my wedding, that I should spend one night at the hotel in Whitesburg the night of my wedding - in one of their Honeymoon Suites (Jacuzzi, bitches!!!!) to relax before heading out the next day (with friends possibly in tow) to spend some time at the Gorge. 

So what's everyone think of that? And the day? Which one do most of you like best? Saturday or Sunday?

Once again, advice, ideas, opinions on things, etc, always appreciated! :)

Wedding Update: A few ideas...

So, I didn't really know where to put this. I've been talking to some of my friends on Facebook (the 'aren't gonna commit me to an asylum' ones) and they've been quite supportive so far, and it's SO awesome! (I feel so loved! *tears up*) So, I wanted to make a spot so I could ask them questions and advice and general help since...well...since I'm pretty much taking a shot in the dark on this! I've never planned a wedding before after all! But I didn't want to send them giant group messages all the time, a page would be too public, and a group...well...groups tend to not be very active most of the time for some reason (at least, in my experience with creating them.) So, I figured I'd post what I'm doing and what I've came up with here so they can read it at their leisure and if they've got something they can message me on my Facebook or leave a comment here. Also, for anyone else thinking of also doing a self-wedding, perhaps you can read through these updates of mine and learn from my mistakes (I'm sure I'll make some at some point!) or even garner an idea or two.

Anyway, onto the actual update...

First of all, for a wedding, a bride normally has a pretty dress (or some other awesome bit of clothing of her choosing). For the longest time, I've always thought of that dress as being a corset-style (boned) A-line dress with a lot of poof at the bottom. A really princess-y kind of dress! Well, the other day, I decided to go have funzies with one of my friends and try on a few dresses (okay, so I only tried on 3...err...2...one wouldn't fit...lol) And, to my SUPER surprise...I didn't really like the big, poofy, A-line one I tried on! (Sure, there may be another one that I DO like...but...this one...wasn't for me...it was pretty (okay, downright f-ing gorgeous!!!!) but...it was heavy...I didn't look that good in it (pretty dress, but not pretty on ME), and it weighed, like, a solid 50 lbs!) I could barely stand up in the thing comfortably!

So, I tried on another dress...the woman at the shop said it was probably the lightest dress they had in stock (completely different than the first one I tried). It was an empire-waist (one of the cuts -other than mermaid- that I thought I would absolutely hate!) chiffon dress. Very simple...very little bling, no poof at all, just simple, elegant, and flowy. And...I abso-tive-ly LOVED it! It looked so beautiful! And beautiful on me! So much so that for once in my life I didn't even pay attention to my awful upper arm fat! Now that's what a dress should do! Make you comfortable, make you feel pretty, and make it look like you...but better. (My friend said she didn't even notice my arms when I asked her about it (even though it was a strapless dress so they should've been in full view) because the rest of it looked so pretty.) It was sort of like the focus was on me, the important parts of me...like my flabby arms weren't even there...just a girl who was absolutely beaming in her elegant dress. Yes, I was in love with the dress! (I wanted to say 'Yes' to the dress! XD)


But, even though it was a wonderful price (just a little over $200 -and had I had the money, I would've bought it then and there) but...I didn't have the money. And I won't have it until September...mid-September at that. The wonderful lady said she'd hold it for a few days for me in case I could get the money up in time. But I know it's a lost cause...I have nowhere to get that money from. And there's a good bet that it will probably be gone by September (unless I'm hella lucky! Which I'm normally...not.) Good thing is, I found a very similar one on eBay, that can be custom fit (Go China! Home of cheap wedding dresses and cosplay costumes with custom sizing!) The only differences I can see in it is that one side of the bust looks like it doesn't have chiffon over it and the embellishment on the front looks like it might have some sort of red jewel in it which, the one in store, did not...just crystal and possibly a few pearls (also, on me, the dress is a bit longer than on the model in this pic...which I kind of liked). I like the one in the store better, but they're pretty close contenders. (I wish I had taken a picture of the one in the store! Stupid me didn't even THINK about it!) But, if it comes down to it, I might just buy the one online. It's still pretty close, and it looks just as pretty!

Here is the one on eBay (click to enlarge):

And, as far as a nice, poofy dress goes...I'm thinking of wearing a different (more Halloween-ish) one to the reception, which I'm very much thinking should allow people to come in costume as well since it's doubling as a Halloween party. But, since it's also such an important day for me - I figured I'd stay with something formal...yet still Halloween-y. I love dresses that are short up front and long in the back, but for partying, I'm thinking maybe do just a short, party dress of some sort (leave short-in-front-long-in-back or princess-y A-line dresses to cosplay sometime.) I found a few other custom-made dresses online that allow for choosing the dress colors, so I'm thinking something short and poofy and black with an orange ribbon around it or something. Or should I arrive in a different, but still very wedding style, dress instead of the Halloween one? Thoughts? Opinions?

Onwards...

On another topic now: Most people play the same, old, plain, music at a wedding - The Wedding March, which is fine, but it's definitely not me! And I've recently fell in love with a song (okay, fell in love with it a month or so ago when it was in one of the anime I was watching.) But it was recently released, including an off-vocal/no lyrics version that is stunningly beautiful! Not only that, but it has just enough of a creepy/haunt factor to make it very well suited for a Halloween-themed wedding! Plus the somber-ness of it seems well suited, to me anyway, for something as emotion-based as a self-wedding.

You can check it out here and see what you think of it:

So...opinions? How's everyone think of the wedding dress? The reception dress idea? The song?

Any advice on anything else? What all I need to do, start planning, etc.? Always much appreciated! :)

A Haunting Self-Wedding?

So this is something I've been mulling around in my head for...almost...a year now?

I've always wanted to have a wonderful wedding!

I love the idea of going out with my best friends, choosing a dress, decorating, coming up with some awesome vows, having a cake made just the way I want it (hopefully), catering a nice dinner, partying afterwards, etc. (And yes, I also know weddings can be difficult and stressful things to plan and execute but the fun memories is normally worth it.) But, due to certain things (I may explain all this in a post later - needless to say it has to do with both my asexuality and my aromanticism...and...well, logic) I will likely never be a bride and walk down the isle (unless it's in my head! Fictional characters FTW!)

So, about a year ago I came across the terms 'self-wedding' and 'self-marriage'. Basically a single person (or a single-at-the-moment) person has a ceremony (normally small, but can be as big as you want) in front of a few friends and vows certain things for themselves and their future (like, always remaining true to one's self, being honest, learning to accept themselves or better themselves, to realize that they are important and to never give up a piece of themselves for a petty reason (or a petty person), etc.) Basically, saying aloud positive affirmations (preferably in front of other people to make certain that if things get tough someone is there to remind them of the promises you made to yourself.) I really rather fancy the idea of it. Everyone needs some 'me' time and it's also helpful to look inside one's self to determine your good qualities and your bad; to do that deep, inner thinking thing and take the time to promise yourself that you'll do your best to keep your good stuff and work on getting rid of the bad. Plus, if you wanna do it fancy, you can invite your friends, have them dress up all pretty, dress yourself up all nice too (it might make you feel better!), and say it aloud (a show of your perseverance for positive change in your life), and party it up for funzies afterwards!

A lot of people think it's absolutely insane and I've heard several snide remarks about the people who do it (or would like to) and how narcissistic they are, etc. (Is it really that narcissistic? How about people who have those giganto-millionaire birthday parties? At least this is trying to include positive change! (And your friends get to party! I'm sure they would have fun partying with you, even if it is for something "odd.") But hey, I'm quite eccentric and crazy and I'm already "weird" so...who cares? Haha!

But anyway, since I would absolutely LOVE to do something like this (and because I've always wanted to have a Halloween party and never could at my house (much too small) and a venue recently opened up where I could have one) I've been thinking that I may just go for it! However, my family would likely think I was nuts, so as much as I would like telling them about it, I probably won't. And even most of my friends would think I'm off my rocker (they don't already? lol.) It's a little hard for me to get all happy-happy and announce it to everyone! But I do know that some of my closest friends might just go for it without thinking I need to be committed to an asylum just yet. So, since I'll be getting some extra cash this fall, I'm thinking I might just go ahead and do it. Have a small ceremony with my closest, 'wouldn't commit me' friends and then having an all out Halloween bash (candy, scary movies, costume contest, ghost stories, games, etc.) afterwards with all my other friends as part of my 'reception'. Mwahaha! And then, since I've been dying to go anyway, I can go and relax in a beautiful cabin in the top of the mountains (Red River Gorge has been looking pretty inviting to me.) I can bring a few friends with me, or enjoy the calm of going solo (haven't decided on that yet.) And that can be my 'honeymoon.' I mean, what part of this doesn't sound fun!?

(Plus it gives me an excuse to cosplay as one of my OC characters (a Princess) and wear a big, poofy, expensive dress all at the same time with no one being the wiser! Ha!)

So, anyone else have any thoughts on the matter? (And I don't wanna be the thought police, but I've heard enough from the naysayers...go think it...somewhere else!) Also, any ideas for my vows? (I'm kind of thinking do the serious ones with just my besties and then have a mock-wedding at the party so I can say some awesomely funny, anime-centric ones too!) So, anyone got any of those? How about how to decorate for a great Halloween party and what to include? I've never done one before, and I want it to be AWESOME!!!! Something people will remember (and possibly want to do again!) Also, I like doing things on the date (Hello! Halloween-versary!) but Halloween is on a Wednesday this year...which may make it difficult for some of my friends to show up (some of them have to work, some may have to take their kids out TOT-ing that night, plus I'll have class the next day! Also, the venue might have something planned that day already!) Also is it weird for a honeymoon to be a few days later? The date is giving me uber troubles! Plus, do I have the cake represent me and my interests like I always wanted? Or should it be just Halloween-oriented (I mean, that is an interest of mine...but...how about my other interests? Combine them? Would that be ugly?)

So MANY, MANY questions! And there's not much time left! I need help!

Hello all! A little about me :3

Kitty be creepin'

Hello!
This is the first time I've ever done a blog and I'll admit, it's a bit confusing to me still (lol).
But I figure a good start, is an introduction:

The things that describe me - being eccentric (duh XD), being a HUGE anime fan, being Wiccan, and being an aromantic asexual (Wikipedia (and AVEN) is your friend!) (Other things include, love of drawing, photography, the paranormal, funky hair colors, goth/punk fashion (including goth-loli), loving Halloween to a creepy amount, and various other little things, most of which relate to these somehow.)

Other things about me - Currently I'm attending a local college (curious as to where I live stalkers? I'm in KY...'nuff said lol) for a Graphic Design degree. I'm 21 (going on 22), recently bought my first car and finally attained a drivers license (woo!). I'm a fujoshi (so be prepared for random, unexpected fangirl-ing). I am obsessed with cat ears (they're soooo cute!!! And yes, I have those brainwave necomimi ears!) I currently have black, aqua, and fuchsia hair. I love comedies! Uhm...uhh...well...things like that! You'll get to know me more as time passes! XD

So, be prepared for postings relating to any of the above...and more! Expect some to be sane and some to be...well...rather strange. (I am quite eccentric after all!)

Well, it's nice to meet you all, whoever you are that happen upon this site!

Ta-ta for now, nyan~! =^.^=